We all have things about ourselves we’d like to be different, or better. Most of us make a reasonable – even considerable – effort to improve our physical well-being, through fitness, diet or other lifestyle considerations, and when we feel something is wrong or out of balance we seek help and find solutions to the problem. But what about our mental well-being? Too often we believe that a habit or fear is too deeply ingrained or too long-established to be able to change. We simply accept that it must just be in our nature to suffer from anxiety, or to be afraid of public-speaking. Whether we lack confidence, feel depressed or stressed, or are addicted to chocolate, we reconcile ourselves to the fact that’s just how we are and how we will remain.
Not so. The good news is that in reality our brains have the ability to re-wire and re-programme any unwanted behaviours. Old habits and beliefs no matter how deeply established can be interrupted. Old patterns can be interrupted and new neural connections can be built that enable constructive and positive changes - all through the power of the mind. Even better, when a new connection is established it becomes stronger each time the new behaviour is repeated, so it becomes easier and easier to make these new changes lasting and permanent.
If you’re reading this page, the chances are that you've realised there’s something you’d like to change for the better. Maybe you do something you wish you didn’t. Maybe you feel there's something in the way of you doing something you wish you could do. I am passionate about helping people deal with emotional or behavioural problems that are holding them back from being the person they want to be – the better version of themselves. Whether we choose talking therapy or hypnotherapy, you can make those positive and lasting changes.
Please read more, and I hope you'll make contact.
The range of symptoms or problems that can be successfully treated through hypnotherapy or another form of psychotherapy is too extensive to make a completely comprehensive list. Whether you are looking to resolve something that seems very specific like tinnitus, or very broad like depression or guilt, there will be a suitable therapy that will help.
Here are some examples of what we can work on:
Anxiety - Stress – Grief
Procrastination - Sports Performance - Public speaking
FEARS & PHOBIAS
Dentist – Flying - Spiders
Driving test - Exams - interviews
Confidence – Self-esteem – Weight management
Family - Workplace - Sexual problems
Unwanted HABITS & BEHAVIOURS
Anger management - Binge drinking – Gambling
Pain Management - Sleep Quality - Deep relaxation
A number of different psychotherapeutic options are available and relevant therapies can be discussed during the complimentary initial consultation. I am qualified to offer the following:
Suggestion Therapy and Psychoanalysis – working with the subconscious mind for faster discovery and resolution of issues that have perhaps been attempted consciously without success.
EFT: Emotional Freedom Technique
Using the acupressure points of the body without the need for needles. Clear emotional ‘blockages’ through the re-balancing of the body’s energy meridians. Learn to let go of entrenched negative emotions or responses.
NLP: Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Understanding the combination of mind, language, and behaviour. Learn to stop doing things that prevent you from achieving what you want and start to become the person you want to be.
Talking Therapy & Counselling
Talking through problems with an objective professional therapist is very different from talking to friends or family. Explore thoughts and feelings and how these affect your behaviour or moods, and find ways to take back control and increase confidence.
All these therapies share one aim: to help you feel better, help you find it easier to cope, and to feel calmer, happier and more positive.
Clinical hypnosis and its relevance for resolving emotional and psychological problems by working with the subconscious mind is now increasingly in demand. Most commonly hypnosis is used for treating things like fears and phobias, unwanted habits or behaviours, or resolving the negative effects of deep emotional issues. Hypnotherapy is increasingly acknowledged by the medical profession as a viable solution and highly effective alternative treatment for many conditions that would otherwise require lengthy courses of medication, such as pain management, anxiety, stress, depression, or eating disorders.
The simplest way to explain hypnosis is perhaps to describe it as ‘being in a state of allowing yourself to open up to new suggestion’. A hypnotherapist uses suggestions of alternative perspectives to help the client recognise how ingrained negative beliefs or emotions can be replaced with new positive ones; how unconstructive or destructive behaviours can be re-programmed to quickly and effectively bring about amazing beneficial changes.
Many people readily admit to some scepticism about hypnosis, primarily due to the influence of tv or stage shows where people in trance do silly or embarrassing things supposedly under the control of the hypnotist.
- The first thing I would say to anyone considering hypnotherapy is that while all hypnosis works on the basis of accessing a person’s subconscious mind to change behaviours, the application of doing this in a clinical context for psychotherapeutic benefit is vastly different from the entertainment motivation behind stage hypnosis.
Quite naturally some people are apprehensive about hypnosis because they’re worried about losing control or being under the control of the hypnotherapist.
- The fact is however that a person under hypnosis is always fully in control of their thoughts and behaviour. The therapist simply facilitates the process of exploration of the client’s symptoms or situation. Hypnosis allows a client to access the initial influences that are at the root of a problem situation, change the way they react to this and approach it from a new and better point of view.
Another common concern is that someone under hypnosis might reveal things that they might have otherwise wanted to keep to themselves.
- The reality is that in hypnosis you will only reveal what you want to – so if deep dark secrets do come out then it’s for a reason and it’s the perfect environment to start to talk and to find the resolution or relief that’s probably been missing or hidden for some time.
The best way to decide if hypnosis is right for you is to give me a call and arrange a no-commitment, no-charge consultation at my practice in central Beaconsfield. By talking through exactly what help or change you are looking for we can ensure you can find out everything you want to about what help or direction is relevant and available and which type of therapy is most appropriate.
ABOUT THE THERAPIST
Debbie Milligan, BA (hons), LAPHP, DHP, MNCH
Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner
Private Practice in Central Beaconsfield
What began as a long-term academic interest in psychology and psychotherapy turned into a new career direction when my father's diagnosis of dementia prompted me to research this illness. I attended a course designed to help family members and professional carers learn new and effective therapeutic approaches that help sufferers and care-givers cope better when living with dementia. Learning how to deal with cognitive decline and consequences of the ageing brain inspired me to devise a series of ‘mental keep-fit’ classes which I ran for groups of retirement village residents for over 6 years. I also volunteered for many years with a “Singing for the Brain’ group, attended by Alzheimer's sufferers and their families, and saw the remarkable effect that something as simple as singing has for people coping with dementia, and I quickly appreciated the power of positive psychology and the immense potential for treating certain psychological conditions with therapeutic rather than pharmacological solutions. During the time I was studying psychology and learning counselling skills I realised that what fascinated me most was the prospect of working with the subconscious mind and the whole concept of neuroplasticity - the brain’s ability to constantly re-wire and re-learn. I later qualified as a clinical hypnotherapist, learning how this particular form of therapy provides access to the subconscious, enabling therapist and client to uncover and recover from neuroses or traumas in ways that some forms of counselling and psychotherapy cannot. Now based in central Beaconsfield I work with clients with a range of psychological and emotional symptoms, helping them recognise and understand negative behaviours or beliefs, and replace these with more constructive and positive ones. I also offer modular bespoke workshops on topics like Mindful Awareness or Stress Management that can be tailored to suit different recipients from schoolchildren to businesses or sports professionals.
For my own continuous professional development I regularly attend diverse courses and workshops run by inspiring and highly experienced psychologists and clinical practitioners reputed as experts in their field. My most recent areas of interest have been new evidence-based strategies for effective chronic pain management, and new ways to address anxiety issues by strengthening the para-sympathetic nervous system. I also completed a masterclass for professionals working with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
As a member of the professional body APHP (Association of Professional Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy) I am bound by stringent rules, ethics and code of conduct, all of which can be found in detail here. I am also registered with NRPC and NCH (the National Register of Psychotherapists and Counsellors, and the National Council for Hypnotherapy.)
07584 840 142
Appointments & fees
Consultations take place at my Beaconsfield practice and are by appointment via phone, email, or the contact form on this site. I work flexible hours to accommodate clients’ availability. Before you attend any consultation we will talk on the phone about what’s troubling you to establish the best therapy approach for you. There is no commitment at any stage to sign up for a given number of sessions.
All clients are offered a no-charge initial consultation that lasts approximately 30-45 minutes. This gives us time to meet and discuss in detail what change you are looking for help with and your expectations of therapy. You have the opportunity to discover more about the choice of therapy options available, to ask questions about any doubts or concerns you might have, and to really work out if this is for you. Most importantly it gives you the chance to decide if I am the right therapist for you, and allows us to agree how to work most effectively together to achieve the very best outcome for you.
standard therapy sessions
A standard individual therapy session lasts approximately 50 minutes and costs £65. There is no 'typical' number of sessions as everyone's needs are different. How long it takes to reach a successful outcome depends on the complexity of what you want to change. Talking therapy alone can be extremely effective for dealing with emotional issues or relationship difficulties. If you decide to try hypnotherapy, this is proven to be a quicker route to finding and addressing deep-rooted issues than through conventional counselling methods because we are able to work with the less-resistant subconscious mind,
Extended therapy sessions
Under certain circumstances extended consultations can prove more productive (e.g. in relationship therapy with two people attending simultaneously.) Extended 90-minute sessions cost £90.
Targeted Therapy Sessions
Some behavioural changes involve a very specific targeted process, e.g. stopping smoking.
These require a 2-hour consultation costing £175.
Contact & Location
The email address and phone number below are monitored continually and any communication made to either of these will be seen or heard by me alone, and as such remain completely and totally confidential. I aim to respond to every call or email the same day, or at least within 24 hours.
Phone: 07584 840 142
Address: Croft Therapy, Grove Road, Beaconsfield HP9 1PE
Consultations take place in my practice at the above address. There is free 1-hour street parking directly outside and the station is less than 10 minutes’ walk away.